Psychology


10 ways to follow your soul

Feel like your life has become routine and lacks depth? Tap into the secrets of your soul to increase creativity, heighten intuition and follow your bliss.

Work with what you love. Idealistic though it may sound in hard economic times, Kalil Gibran’s tenet “work is love made visible” is a soulful sinecure held sacred by many in search of a more spiritual life. Adds Teresa Franklyn, author of online inspirational publication The-Not-So-Daily-Dose, “When you forget about everything else related to it, when you quiet all the ruckus and offer pure, uncluttered thought about the thing you want, it finds its way to you quickly. Let the Universe handle all the details. Your only work is to clear out all the debris and create a clear pathway for the thing you desire by simply and solely focusing on what you want.”

Socialise with creative thinkers. While everyone has different soul dreams, exchanging ideas with people who think differently to you is a major key in unlocking your creativity. Says Vera John-Steiner, author of Creative Collaborations, who studied famous duos like Pierre and Marie Curie and Albert Einstein and Niles Bohr, “Social interactions are crucial. They provide a non-judgmental ear for emerging ideas.” While the current global recession may be financially crippling, tough times can create great opportunities for collaboration to rise above negative circumstances. During the Great Depression, creativity, in terms of both theatre and physics, flourished.

Trust the darkness. “Creativity – like human life itself – begins in darkness,” says Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way. “Mystery is at the heart of creativity. That, and surprise.” However, while insights often come as blinding flashes, they are usually preceded by a gestation period that is interior, murky, and completely necessary, adds Cameron, who likens their growth to that of yeast in a dark cupboard.

Harness your imagination. Trivial though it may sound, the greatest creative force, said Albert Einstein, is imagination. Without the vision, there would have been no Disneyland for the world to see, said Walt Disney. “Imagination is the most marvellous, miraculous, inconceivably powerful force the world has ever known,” says Napoleon Hill, author of Think and Grow Rich (Filquarian Publishing, 2005) who helped Andrew Carnegie and two US presidents to tap into theirs to come up with far-reaching solutions. By exercising it daily, you not only transform mundane events into opportunities, but can tune into your soul essence to manifest your dreams.

Live overseas. Besides opening your soul to new experiences, the challenge of living in a foreign country, say researchers Adam Galinsky and Willam Maddux, teaches you how to think more creatively. “Just thinking about your time as an expat before engaging in a task can boost your creativity, the researchers found,” says a recent article in New Scientist. “They primed volunteers, all of whom had lived abroad, by asking them to write about their time spent either in a foreign country, travelling, at home or in the supermarket. They found that the first group did significantly better than the others on a subsequent word-based creativity task. “Experiencing a different culture may make you less fixed in your thinking and more able to accept and recombine novel ideas,” conclude Galinsky and Maddux.

Dance to your own drum. When Fenella Barnes went on a trip to Skyros, Greece about 10 years ago, she had little idea that it would send her soul down a new path. “One of the workshops was African drumming, which I thought I’d give a go, and just got hooked. By pure chance the teacher lived about 20 miles away from me in the UK, so I started going to his weekly classes when I got back,” says Barnes, who is now part of a network of drummers who visit Senegal and Gambia once a year, and has witnessed how it calms autistic patients. “It was the key to following my bliss.” While drumming may not be your choice, music of any sort has been shown to help people think more laterally and come up with more novel ideas than non-musicians who only use their left frontal cortex ro solve problems.

Trust your higher self. Because your ego is only concerned with gratifying itself in the present, it fights with your higher knowing or guidance, says Barbara Rose, author of Individual Power: Reclaiming your core, your Truth and your Life. Once you tune into higher faculties like visions, psychic messages and intuition where you just know something is right, “you find your life to be so much easier, far less painful; because it comes form your higher self, so it knows exactly from where you are at this moment to wherever or whatever your goal is.”

Daydream. Touted by a recent study as a crucial key to problem-solving, daydreaming is an easily accessible way to stay in touch with your soul and intuitive faculties. “When your mind wanders, a different kind of thinking occurs,” said Professor Kalina Christoff, the study’s lead author. “When you aren’t trying to solve problems deliberately, it provides more mental space, you make connections and let your mind go wherever it wants.”
“Driving is the perfect activity for letting your mind wander because it is highly automatized and requires only a small part of our attention,” she adds.

Take charge. While tuning into the flow of intuition is vital for reaching your soul, directing its flow may need more focus. A firm believer in the Law of Attraction, life coach Martha Beck likens her life to riding a horse, which has a mind of its own. “While waiting for external circumstances to make my decision for me, I’ve found myself utterly frustrated. But by creating plans and acting on them they create an energy zone of clarity and power. That alone will get the horse moving,” says Beck. “I still can’t ride worth a darn. But now when I ride I know that failure to move forward is not her fault, it’s mine. And I know that my life, like my obliging mare, cannot take me to wonderful places unless I hold the energy of leadership the whole time I’m on her. Your life is a horse. Lead it,” she asserts.

Open the door. “The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door,” says Clarissa Pinkola Estes, author of Women who run with wolves (Random House, 1992), whose Jungian take on the soul centres on telling stories in order to keep the past and instinctual self alive. “If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.” Open it, explore your past, connect with the present, listen to your soul. Or, as mythologist Joseph Campbell once wrote, “Follow your bliss and doors will open where there were no doors before.”

Published in Aquarius. Copyright held by the author.

The basis of most spiritual philosophies, focusing on the here and now, as opposed to the end destination or past failures, is the key to a productive and fulfilling life. Stop procrastinating, ditch self-defeating distractions and do it now.

1. Follow the Daffodil Principle. When Carolyn took her mom to see a spectacular field of daffodils in a country town, their lives were changed forever. Beside a house next to the field was a poster headlined, “Answers to the Questions I Know You Are Asking”. The first answer read: “50 000 bulbs”. The second answer was, “One at a time, by one woman. Two hands, two feet, and very little brain.” The third answer: “Began in 1958.”
The message, as Carolyn pointed out to her mom who lamented about what she could have done had she started 30 years’ earlier, was, “Forget the past. Start now. One bulb at a time.”
2. Just do it. Says Tim Pychyl, Carleton University professor and expert on procrastination, “When the temptation strikes to put something off to tomorrow, I just get started on it right then. Even in the darkness of 6 am when another 15 minutes in bed sounds great, I say to myself: ‘Get your sorry little butt out of bed. The horses are hungry. Get up!’ And when I’m up, I’m happier.”
3. See the big picture. Whether your day is spent tending the household and running after children or designing an ad for a high-flying corporation, niggly chores and dreaded tasks are as important to the final result as creative endeavours. Take 15 minutes a day to write a to-do list. Divide it into chores and exercises that require a lot of time, and work your day around a schedule. Tick off tasks as you complete them, and review your progress at the end of the day.
4. Zap the time thieves. “Simple honesty with yourself is huge, huge,” maintains Pychyl. “Identify clues you’re about to put off. If you’re checking e-mails instead of attending to the small chores, he says, don’t take refuge in the ‘It-will-only-take-a-minute-later’ rationalization. Turn it around. Realize that many jobs literally only take a minute, so let’s do it right now.”
If you’re weak on emotional steadiness, conscientiousness or organization, you need to break down tasks into pieces, and finish one piece at a time, says Pychyl. “Once we get started, we wonder ‘Why did I put it off?’ Make a deal with yourself to work on a task for 15 minutes, and with resistance overcome, momentum to continue usually takes over.”
5. Change the way you talk to yourself. After leaving university in his third year mainly because he lacked direction, Pychyl’s natural interest in human behaviour, and what turns people into their own worst enemy, was aroused by an adviser’s research on personal projects and happiness. His interviews with graduate students showed that many of them were in procrastination paralysis because of lack of self-esteem. Solution? “Instead of worrying about living up to other peoples’ standards, think to yourself, ‘This isn’t the end of the world. This is just the way I react emotionally,’ instead of moving away from the task”.
6. Improve your concentration. A study by Carleton undergraduate researcher Ari Rotblatt confirms that mindful meditation, with your breath as focus, builds concentration power. If you feel you are drifting off in the middle of the day, do an engaging computer game which will sharpen your reflexes and attention to immediate detail. Or tap into your senses. Says Raphael Cushnir, author of How Now, “For example, pay attention to what happens when you smile. Notice how your interior sensations shift as a result. Next, close your mouth and hum a note. Follow the vibration of the sound waves as they spread through organs and bones. Let them wake you up.”
7. Disconnect. When you’re busy on an important task, shut off your e-mail, MSN and your phone. Don’t have Facebook open. Says Leo Babauta, whose simple blog (http://zenhabits.net) mushrooomed from observations of everyday Zen into one of the world’s top 50 blogs, “Don’t check e.mail first thing in the morning. Do your three most important things for the day, or the thing you’ve been procrastinating on the most. Then check e.mail. If you are constantly checking email throughout the day, you will be distracted and not able to focus on the task before you.” To ensure his inbox is always empty, he decides what has to be done with each e.mail as it arrives: answer, print out for later appraisal if it’s long, mark for later action or archive it.
8. Go with the flow. Coined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi to describe the essence of experience described by high achievers, flow is “being completely involved in an activity for its own sake”. While it sounds mystical, it is very practical to institute, says Babauta. The direct antithesis of multi-tasking, which keeps you busy but not necessarily productive, getting into flow requires choosing a task that is challenging, ditching all distractions during a quiet period in your day, and pouring yourself into it without worry of self-consciousness. “Aside from the pleasure of getting into Flow, you’ll also be happier with your work overall. You’ll get important stuff done. You’ll complete stuff more often, rather than starting or stopping frequently. All of this is hugely satisfying and rewarding. Take time to appreciate this feeling (perhaps after the fact), and to continue to practise it every day,” he says.
9. Seize the day. While going with the flow sounds like a passive exercise, it really requires active participation and ownership. As Rachel Lim, an intern for Arrows With Soul (www.arrowswithsoul.com), a Singaporean community enrichment programme, says,“The word ‘seize’ means to take possession by force, and conjures for me an image of jumping up and grabbing hold onto to that moment, declaring, ‘It’s mine! It’s my moment!’, and then holding on to it for dear life.”
10. Set poetry in motion. Seize the moment, but make your 60 seconds of duty 24 hours of satisfaction. Says Taoist Deng Ming-Dao, “Just do what you can for the present, and leave everything else to happen naturally. Work. Wash. Meditate. Eat. Study. Urinate. Sleep. Exercise. Talk. Listen. Touch. Die each night. Be born again each morning.”

Published in Aquarius, Dubai. Copyright Sharon Marshall 2008.

Happily ever after an idealistic phrase coined by writers of children’s fairytales? Not so, say those who view marriage as a soul journey undertaken by two individuals with separate life paths and a common goal.

 

* Trust must be absolute. “I think entering into a marriage with an exit clause is destructive and dangerous. Trust is critical in a marriage. You can’t trust someone and ask for a dissolution agreement ‘just in case’. If you need that, one or both of you is holding back or is seeing something that you should be paying attention to but are trying to ignore,” says life coach Laura Young, whose second marriage, 15 years on, gets better by the year.

“You need to know that your partner is capable of loving you even when it’s painful. Think about what you are agreeing to when you enter in to a marriage. I didn’t the first time. I’m older and wiser now. I get it. So does my husband.”

* Involve and evolve. Remember that you are married to a separate and evolving individual who is put on this earth to do and learn certain things, maintains Young. “The reality is your partner is going to change. And it is a fact that each individual has to figure out for themselves what this life is going to mean to them and how they want to walk their path.

“Being committed to another doesn’t mean you become the other. Lives combine but in healthy marriages they don’t become absorbed one into the other. Celebrate each other. Embrace change. Encourage evolution. Remember where you end and they begin. In short, love each other as other.”

* Don’t fix it if it’s not broken. For Suzanne Saunders, the romance of marriage started to wear off when she started working from home, which included domestic chores, isolation – and coping with a stressed out husband at the end of the day. “When Clive got home, he would generally be in a bad mood, and I would think he was angry with me because I had forgotten to do something or irritated him in some way.”

“I spent months feeling inadequate because I thought I was making him unhappy and disempowered because I thought my petty grievances were unimportant to him.”

A common scenario, says life alchemist John Rushton, who recommends a simple dose of compassion and respect for each other’s boundaries. Adds Young, “What your partner does is seldom a reflection of you or on you. I allow him that space to come down from his day to allow us time to get in sync. Had I made his process about ME, I would have been cranky, needy, demanding or some other version of annoying and then he’d have to fix me after a full day of work.”

* Sexless seasons are normal. A dry spell isn’t a sign that you’ve lost your mojo or that you’ll never have sex again, says journalist Ylonda Gault Caviness. “It just means that maybe this week, sleep is more important than sex. And don’t kid yourself; no one is doing it as often as popular culture would have you believe. The key is to make sure that even if you’re not doing ‘it’, you’re still doing something — touching, kissing, hugging. Personally, my heart gets warm and mushy when my husband rubs my feet after a long, tiring day. He may not be anywhere near my G-spot, but that little bit of touch and attention keeps us connected even when we’re not having spine-tingling sex.”

* Respect and resolve. While conflict is inevitable, and even healthy, there are ways to ensure it doesn’t get out of hand and harp on past issues, says couples counsellor Jodi Whyman. Bring it up in a non-threatening way, no name calling, focus on specific issues or behaviours, rather than personality qualities. Use “I” statements, stay calm, take a few minutes break if tempers are frayed and choose the right time — not when people are tired or hungry, when the kids are around, or when you’re on deadline at work.”

* Our way is better than my way. The biggest breakdown of marriage, says Rushton, is separate agendas. “It’s called the ME syndrome. A marriage is doomed for failure if you each rush about doing your own thing and not seeing the bigger picture of US.”

It was this realization that shifted Caviness into a different gear. “A lifetime of experience has taught me that in most areas, at most times, I am right about most things. What shocked me several years into my marriage, though, was the realization that the more ‘right’ I was, the more discontented my husband and I were as a couple.”

Her solution? “After locking horns often, I realised that there is no right way or wrong way. When I sincerely acknowledge his view, it seems to become easier for him to hear mine. And because I know I’m being heard, most of the time now, I don’t even want to prove how right I am any more. Funny how that works, isn’t it?”

 

(Published in Aquarius, Dubai. Copyright Sharon Marshall 2008.)

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

While stimulation and protection are crucial to your child’s emotional and social development from the moment of birth, ongoing research shows that the relationship with your child actually begins in the womb. Here’s how to get off to an early start and nurture your bond with your child before birth. 

 Since Dr Arthur Janov published his theory that adult neuroses and anxieties stem from unmet needs in childhood, primal therapists have evolved the theory that much adult trauma actually stems back to the first nine months in the womb.

While this may sound unreal to many because the womb is thought to be a safe and secure place of succour, research has shown that for a lot of people life in the womb was an anxiety-filled struggle to stay alive.

“The mental apparatus of a baby is not suddenly thrown into gear with birth. All the complex tasks associated with living outside the womb – like breathing, sucking, swallowing, touching, smelling, looking, listening – are the end result of mental work long before birth,” says Thomas Verney in The Secret Life of the Unborn Child (Delta, 1988).“By the fourth month after conception, the foetus will suck if his lips are stroked. At five months, if a loud sound is made next to the mother, the unborn child will raise his hands and cover his ears.”

Which is why Patti Good, an emotional wellbeing and relaxation expert specializing in motherhood, promotes the importance of bonding, communicating and acknowledging that the baby is a healthy, happy part of the family from the moment of conception.

MEMORIES ARE MADE OF THIS

According to Good, memories of life in the womb are carried through to adulthood. “I work as a journey therapist where we focus on clearing cell memory using The Journey technique developed by Brandon Bays (Atria, 2002). I have had numerous clients over the years who have gone back to their womb experience, only to pick up exactly what their mother was thinking and feeling at that time.”

Says Althea Hayton, author of wombtwin.com and editor of Untwinned: perspectives on the death of a twin before birth by David Chamberlain (Wren Publications, 2007), “Babies are not a blank slate! They have already had a lot of adventures before birth, and, as Chamberlain shows, the survivors of a vanishing twin pregnancy often have an experience of death that can haunt them all their lives.”

Primal therapists believe that many unborn children who had a difficult time surviving in the womb spend their lives wracked with anxiety and pain, which often manifests itself in bizarre or unusual ways, says therapist Bonnie Randolph. “Some of them transform their pain in admirable ways – creative artists like Vincent Van Gogh, the many sensitive, so-called schizophrenics, and the successful men and women who struggle against incredible odds to achieve, and yet are so full of tension that one wonders how they manage a day’s work. They manage because they did so in the uterus under the most gruelling conditions. They had the integrity, the will, and the strength to stay alive despite the cost – a lifetime of suffering.”

MOOD AND EMOTION

Though the mother’s state of mind is not the only influencing factor in determining the health of the unborn child, Good says it plays a major role.

“Maternal ambivalence has been proven to be as detrimental to the emotional, physical and mental development of the baby/child as outright abuse of the mother during the pregnancy. This indicates how crucial it is for healthy development that a baby needs love, connection and bonding right from conception.”

“The happier and more relaxed the mom feels, the calmer the baby will be, but we need to differentiate between ‘mood’ and ‘ongoing strong negative emotion’. Having a bad day is very different to the stress experienced from being in an abusive relationship/overstressed at work/depression.”

If the negative emotion is prolonged, Good advises that mothers seek professional help. “Because pregnancy is a huge transition for the mom, many old unresolved issues or emotions from her past may surface. If left unresolved, they may negatively impact both the birth and the post-natal period.”

GENTLE DADDY
In keeping with modern attitudes to the role the father plays in the child’s birth, Good says much the same applies to Dad’s mood and regard for the child in utero.

Citing a study conducted at the University of Salzburg, Good says mothers who developed a deep connection with their babies and interacted with play and talk tended to have a healthy self-image and enjoyed the changes happening to their body and body shape. Furthermore, fathers who were involved in this bonding displayed the same respect and awe for their partner and the miracle her body was undergoing.

“The closeness of the couple translated into a direct physical impact on the babies. These mothers experienced fewer premature births and fewer low-birthweight babies. The study also showed greater socialisation of babies whose parents had actively bonded both with the baby and each other during the pregnancy. Reciprocal nurturing of both parents sends a strong message of security to the baby, letting it know it is loved and safe,” concludes Good.
The opposite effect is shown by Verney in studies which indicate abuse, upset and volatile emotions experienced by a mom who is in a bad relationship have a detrimental effect on the baby’s development, while birth research guru Michael Odent demonstrates how traumatic births and those with a high level of medical intervention can lead to criminal behaviour, substance abuse and mental health issues later in life.

A SMALL PRICE

According to Chamberlain, who has been developing early parenting programmes since the 1980s, the outcome has shown that unborn babies benefit from communication and stimulation by forming stronger relationships with their parents. They also show precocious development of speech, fine and gross motor performance, better emotional self-regulation, and better cognitive processing.

In short, these children grow up with greater empathy, better social skills and higher IQ, says Hayton. A precious reward for a little care in a competitive and often unfeeling world.

(BOX) CONNECT AND GROW

There are a range of factors which aid the wellbeing of both mother and foetus.
1. Relax. “Relaxation is vital! When the mum’s body releases endorphins during relaxation, this means she is actively eliminating any stress hormones in her system, as endorphins and stress hormones have a mutually exclusive relationship. This means that the mum is filled with a deep sense of wellbeing and the baby gets the benefit as well. Mums who practice regular relaxation during the pre-natal period have babies that tend to be calmer and feed and sleep better,” says Good.
2. Touch. “Rhythmic touch is also a lovely way of communicating with your baby. What I mean by this is creating a specific pattern of touch, for example pat pat pat, rub rub rub, stroke stroke stroke. This can easily be repeated after the baby is born to give a beautiful sense of continuity.”

According to Verney, the baby responds directly to tactile stimulation by the seventh week after conception. By the sixteenth week, s/he is kicking his feet, curling his toes and sucking his thumb to both explore and comfort himself. “By stroking the abdomen gently from underneath the naval, expectant moms will quickly observe that their baby will stop kicking and relax. By about the seventh month you can start stroking firmly and repetitively from baby’s head towards her toes, which is thought to accelerate the development of the baby’s peripheral nervous system. More importantly, this massage helps the pregnant woman (and her partner) to make contact with the baby, enhancing the baby’s feeling of being loved.”
3. Play music. “Music is a well-known way of connecting with your baby. It evokes both emotion and memory in the listener and if this is the mum, then the baby will feel the effect. Babies who are exposed to soft music or singing during their time in the womb tend to be happier, calmer and better adjusted to life outside the womb,” says Good, who recommends listening to relaxation CDs like those at
www.babyjourney.com.

Expectant moms should listen to soothing music 10 minutes or so twice a day, sitting comfortably or reclining in pleasant surroundings, advises Verney. “Besides stress relief, the music stimulates the baby’s mind and serves as an emotional bridge between the mother and her unborn child.”

Adds Good: “I witnessed an amazing example recently which shows just how aware little babies are. One mum played a piece of classical music to her baby all the way through her pregnancy. Once the baby was born, she was so sick of it, she hurled the cassette into the back of a cupboard. About five years later the child found the tape and listened to it, after which she ran up to her mom exclaiming, ‘Mummy, it’s the ‘before music’, it’s the ‘before music’.”

4. Talk and read stories. After conducting a study in which six mothers read story A and six story B to their unborn children twice a day, Verney is adamant about communicating with your unborn child. “When their babies were born, the researchers offered the infants a choice between the two stories. Within a few hours after birth, 11 of the 12 newborns adjusted their sucking rhythm to hear the familiar story as opposed to the new one. This provides the first direct evidence that not only does the newborn hear and recognize the mother’s voice, but also remembers the words.”

5. Eat well. On a nutritional level, cut your intake of toxic substances, such as nicotine, narcotics, too much alcohol and caffeine, and up your intake of vitamins. Omega 3 has been shown to have a direct impact on the development of the child’s brain. Advises Althea Hayton, “Eat as many fresh vegetables as you can swallow. Lots of fruit, plenty of dairy if you can tolerate it, calcium-rich foods such as nuts or seeds, and a good protein-rich meal every day. If there is morning sickness, don’t eat sugary foods like sweet biscuits. Dry wholewheat toast, or soft fruits like bananas are best together with diluted fruit juice. Rest in bed until the blood sugar goes up and then start the day.”

(BOX) Pamela’s story

Pamela* of Cape Town has spent many years in “deep feeling therapies” working though her  traumatic beginnings.

“I initially began therapy to work through childhood traumas,” she says, “and so I was most surprised to find that as I went deeper, memories from long before birth began to surface. My parents fought a lot when my mother was pregnant, and I would become terrified. Not only did I hear the angry voices, but my mother’s stress hormones came pouring into me through my umbilical cord, making me feel horribly agitated, anxious and overstimulated. 

At one stage in my therapy I started having panic attacks, and one particular incident was very upsetting. I had been invited by my cousin’s wife for tea. On the way there, the thought came to me that though Diedré had invited me, my cousin Chris hadn’t, and that he would be angry.

When I arrived, Chris hadn’t come home yet, so Diedré and I chatted. But when Chris arrived, I began to shake and could barely get a word out. I wanted to hide from him, and I didn’t know why. I was in a panic attack for about an hour. I desperately wanted to go home, but was afraid to say so, because if I spoke, it would draw attention to me, and I didn’t want to be “seen”. I was trying to be “invisible”.                                                                                                 

By the time I got home I was aware that the feeling was about being invited by a woman but being unwelcome by her husband. Suddenly I was back in the womb. I lay down and started sobbing, “I mustn’t move, I mustn’t ‘breathe’, I mustn’t grow. I must hide in here, because if he finds out I am in here, Daddy will be very angry.” Then I was sobbing, “Daddy, Daddy, I didn’t come just to be with mommy, I came to be with you too. Please love me Daddy.”

The crying brought great relief, and I realised that I was reliving how I had felt my mother’s terror of having to tell my father that she was pregnant with me. He hadn’t wanted children, but she had.  During my life I had often ‘hidden’ from people and been afraid of being seen. Since reliving that early scene, I have become more confident. 

Before he died, my father said to me, “I didn’t ever want children. But I want you to know that once you got here, you were very welcome, and you wound your little fingers round my heart.” It was such a relief to me to hear him say what I had always known (first unconsciously and then consciously, and we were able to heal our relationship before he died.

* not her real name

 

FURTHER READING
Primal Health (http://www.birthworks.org/primalhealth/) run by birth and research guru Michel Odent.

From Fetus to Child by Alessandra Piontell (Routledge, 1992)
The Inside Story by Joan Raphael Leff (Sheldon Press, 1993)

 Published in Aquarius, Dubai, and Move, South Africa. Copyright Sharon Marshall 2008.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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